Look, we’re two full weeks into the new year and I’m sure no one cares. However, I have not missed a year of this annual survey since I started it in 2007 so buckle up!
Previous years’ answers are available here: (2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017). Over time I have modified and deleted some of the original questions, but here’s what I’m working with this year:
1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before?
I wore a bikini in public, made a child’s Halloween costume, joined a running team, and started an SSRI.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Last year, I wrote that I’d like to: “Get a general practitioner so I can stop going to urgent care, spend less on frivolous purchases. Keep up my yoga practice. Race in another 5K and a 10K, as I’m now in a new age group!” And although I didn’t think of it as an official resolution, I decided that my leisure reading would only include books by women authors. I did really well on these!
For this year, I don’t have a real resolution. I am going to sprinkle a few monthly challenges into my year, including Dry January (currently going on right now, yay?), a month of daily blog posting, a no-spend month, a run streak month, a decluttering month, and more to be determined later. My leisure reading will focus on the voices of women, people of color, and LGBTQ writers.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes! Lots of internet ladies and a few work friends. So many little babies I need to hug.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
Not this year.
5. What places did you visit?
Atlanta (shopping), New Orleans (for a ladies’ weekend WHICH WAS AMAZING), Iowa (family visit), St. Louis (quick friend visit on the way home from Iowa), and Florida (family Christmas visit). I think that was it?
6. What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018?
I’ll repeat last year’s answer, which is still true: “A sane president, mainly. I would also appreciate more time alone and a more organized house.”
7. What days from 2018 will you always remember?
Nothing comes to mind as I sit here. I may think of a day later, but if I do, it wouldn’t really qualify as a day I’ll “always remember,” so.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Figuring out that my overwhelming anger might be a symptom of anxiety. This was news to me! I hadn’t been feeling “anxious,” but whaddayaknow? Anti-anxiety meds made me significantly less angry. I mean, I still have swarms of bees coming out of my mouth on a daily fucking basis, but life is better.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Healthy eating continues to be a struggle, as I mentioned last year, but I feel like I have improved my thinking on this front. I don’t feel like I had any “failures” this year.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
I had some back problems off and on this year, which are awful when they surface, but I am doing better with strength exercises that really help. My biggest health issue was in October — STOP READING IF YOU ARE SQUEAMISH — a spider bite (?) I acquired on a trip to the pumpkin patch that became infected and developed a huge, painful, horrifying abscess on the back of my leg. The doctor, ahem, took care of it for me and did a bacterial culture and it turned out to be MRSA and long story short, I still do not feel clean. Thanks for nothing, festive fall family activities.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
My trip to NOLA was pretty amazing. And daycare.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
13. Where did most of your money go?
Daycare. I’ll just keep repeating this answer every year until they start kindergarten.
14. What did you get really excited about?
Traveling with my BFFs, having our new friends move onto our cul-de-sac two doors down, and running a fast (for me) 10K in November.
15. What song will always remind you of 2018?
Not a new song, but Lil Mama’s “Lip Gloss” got a lot of play on my running mix.
16. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? Happier.
b) thinner or fatter? Same.
c) richer or poorer? Same.
17. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Socializing with local friends.
18. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Eating my feelings.
19. How did you spend Christmas?
We spent the week-ish before Christmas visiting with family in Florida. My in-laws have a place there and the rest of the family came down and stayed in a nearby hotel. It was stormy the entire time, so we spent a lot of the trip indoors (or driving through insane rain and winds to visit an aquarium). For the actual holiday, we were back home with just the four of us. The kids can talk and ask more questions about Santa this year, and they were absolutely ALL IN on the Christmas magic, which was pretty great.
20. What was your favorite TV program?
I continued to love The Great British Baking Show, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, and The Good Place. I also enjoyed Marcella, Jack Ryan, Atlanta, and Mindhunter, which were new ones for me this year. Very excited for Game of Thrones to make its return soon!
21. What was the best book you read?
Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng. Just perfection.
Here are some other highlights from this year, which was entirely devoted to reading women’s words:
- Hunger – Roxane Gay
- The Turner House – Angela Flournoy
- The Wangs vs the World – Jade Chang
- I’ll Be Gone in the Dark – Michelle McNamara
- The After Party – Anton DiSclafani
- The Witch Elm – Tana French
- Career of Evil – Robert Galbraith
- Why I Wake Early – Mary Oliver
22. What music did you get excited about?
Far too little. I kind of shifted from music to podcasts for most of my listening time this year. So…my favorite podcasts from the year were My Favorite Murder, The Ali on the Run Show, and The Popcast with Knox and Jamie.
23. What did you want and get?
Democrats in the House!
24. What did you want and not get?
25. What was your favorite film of this year?
I saw and enjoyed: Black Panther, A Quiet Place, and To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before. I also saw a lot of movies I didn’t enjoy all that much and, I’m sure, many I’ve completely forgotten! No standout favorites this year.
26. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Went with the family to Krispy Kreme on the way to work/school, ran 12K (an almost-yearly tradition on my birthday) and got a manicure. My in-laws arrived that afternoon to spend a couple of days with us on their way down to Florida, so we had pizza and cupcakes that night. I turned 41.
27. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2018?
Lots of skinny jeans with blazers, for some reason.
28. What kept you sane?
Last year I wrote, “Coffee, running, and Twitter,” which is still true. This year I’ll add C3l3xa to that list.
29. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
I very much enjoy Celeste Ng not only for her novels but also on Twitter. Anna Friel. Still Lin Manuel Miranda.
30. What political issue stirred you the most?
What didn’t?! Jesus, what an absolute trashfire. But probably children in cages at the border. That, probably. I mean, unless it was Brett Motherfucking Kavanaugh. #angrybees
31. Who was the best new person you met?
I feel like I’m forgetting someone, but nobody stands out? Eeep.
32. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018.
Take that spider bite to the doctor POSTHASTE.
And, as I say every year, qui patitur vincit.
33. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Not sure I have a song lyric this year. How about a lyric poem? This may be more “aspirational” than summative, but here you go:
I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the rivers
flow in the right direction, will the earth turn
as it was taught, and if not how shall
I correct it?
Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,
can I do better?
Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrows
can do it and I am, well,
Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,
am I going to get rheumatism,
Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing.
And gave it up. And took my old body
and went out into the morning,
— Mary Oliver